Is Selfishness devastating your life? It is not the selfish person’s fault.It is your fault you gave more than they deserved

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Girls must  have heard  about  concealors.Well some men  directly  into light-camera-action industries,or  more  than needed inclined towards  the glam world are quite familiar  to  the term.Still for everyones information concealors are  kind of  cosmetics that  covers up all scars,blemish  uneven  skintone  that exists in our faces.Well  these  are material concealors but  we  often  meet  the  supertalent  born  with  inborn concealors  and  naturally blending  this  that  provides  enough  coverage  to their flaws.We  often  meet people trust them ,some becomes  our  great friend, some best friends  ,a part of life and some become people we can sacrifice our life.But  when  we understand  that  they  are  selfish our life  already gets  devastated.Selfish people are always lovable, nice and really sweet.
It’s true, they really are.Unfortunately for you, the traits of a selfish person aren’t easy to notice, because they cover their darker side so well.
But as the relationship starts to grow, you’d start to feel emotionally weak around this person.And before you know it, they could suck the happiness out of you, and all you can do is watch helplessly.If you’re traumatized by a selfish person in your own life, don’t hate yourself for it.It’s not your fault that you didn’t see the signs.The result of being a selfish  is often either to find an extraordinary giver who can tolerate what feels like immense restrictive behavior or to have multiple “superficial” relationships. This keeps the selfish  in an unthreatened mode and they then can feel as though they don’t have to answer to anyone. The irony of it all is that a selfish person wouldn’t even know they’re being selfish. They’d just assume they’re nice people who care about their own happiness more than anything else. But in their pursuit of their own happiness, they carelessly and intentionally walk all over the shattered hearts of any loving person around them.When you’re in a relationship with a selfish person, they would continue to extract your love and your affections. But they’d stop giving any love or affection back in return which would leave you feeling weak, unappreciated and miserable.Selfish people are skilled manipulators by instinct.

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If you’re being used by a selfish friend who sees you as an emotionally weak target, you may even find yourself confused and lost. You may wonder why you’re the only one feeling miserable around this selfish person while everyone else thinks so highly of them. But that’s only because you lovingly handed over the strings to control you like a puppet to them.A selfish person will behave selfishly around you only when they truly believe that you need them more.

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If you feel like you’re doing all the giving while the other person only takes, big chances are, you’re being used in the relationship. Learn to see the signs and more importantly, learn to accept it when you think you’re being devastated.learn to detach yourself slowly, a little more with each passing day. As you start the detachment step, you’d be more aware and you’d see this person’s selfish side even more clearly. And that’ll give you the strength to move away soon. 

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